W/C 1st June 2020

Monday 1st June

Dembe has been a really good boy today whilst Jay ( with a bit of help from me) did some DIY jobs around the house. He was so cute every time we bent down to pick something up he would come running and then kiss us. He is such an affectionate little lambchop.

The weather has been really hot, so when Jay took Dembe up the common he thought he would take him for a swim. Dembe raced ahead and it wasn’t until Jay caught up with him that he realised that all the water had evaporated and Dembe was having a terrific time rolling around n the mud. I had a phone call from Jay to let me know that towels and dog shampoo would be needed!

He was such a good boy as we shampooed him and then hosed him off in the garden. He loved laying outside in the sunshine whilst he dried off.

Jay is on holiday this week so Dembe is loving all the extra daddy & Dembe time.

Tuesday 2nd June

Dembe started crying at 4.39am and I was not impressed. 5am is bad enough every morning but just after 4.30am is taking the piss! I rolled over and ignored him, he slept for a bit and then went and got his daddy up at 5am.

Dembe is very unsettled this morning Jay has gone to visit his parents who he hasn’t seen since December. It took 90 minutes before he finally collapsed and went to sleep.

He was so excited when Jay got home, running around grabbing toys and dropping them at Jays feet. He always brings Jay a gift every time he returns home be it from work or just out of the house.

It was very close all day Tuesday, I was struggling with the heat as was Dembe. He flaked out in the evening and lay asleep on the rug.

Wednesday 3rd June

Dembe saw Martin the dog trainer today, as Martin was collecting a pallet that we were getting rid of. Dembe’s tail was going mad and he was barking to get Martins attention. They haven’t seen each other since March. We are all desperate to get back to our training sessions.

I tried to take a selfie with the boy but he was refusing to co-operate !

He was toy obsessed today constantly bringing us toys. His puppy that he chose at the indoor market last year has been a firm favourite this week.

Tonight Dembe settled in with me for the night after spending last night with his dad.

Thursday 4th June

Dembe has been in a funny mood all day, obsessed with finding all his toys that he has managed to push under the sofa. He cried for 30 minutes straight until Jay moved the small sofa and behind it we found his half chewed bulls tail. Then after he ate that he cried again at the small sofa and beside it we found his small pink teething ring that he hasn’t played with in ages and has had since he was 8 weeks old.

He then wanted to play with it all day long

Dembe has also started another little thing this week of stealing my slippers when I am on the sewing machine. Today he stole both my slippers, one was in the garden and one was in the bathroom when I went to put them on!

Dembe’s favourite game with Jay is what we call nudge. Dembe and Jay knock a ball backwards and forwards to each other. Dembe will play this for ages and will only play it with Jay. So we have had countless games of nudge this week whilst Jay has been off.

Friday 5th June

A year ago today we started our obedience training lessons.

I will be honest if we hadn’t paid for the course we would have never have gone back after that night. ( nothing to do with Happy Dogs)

Dembe was 7 months old and was the worst behaved pup there. Basically he looked like he had snorted a line of coke and then took some speed to liven things up a little. He continually barked at all the dogs wanting to play. Looked like a yo-yo as he bounced off the end of the lead. He was an absolute nightmare, Jamie and I were mortified as he wasnt the dog we knew and loved.

If I had been grading the lesson I would have given us a 0/10 . And not a hope in hell of ever improving.

We took on Martin’s advice , we practiced what we had learned every day. I practiced multiple times a day getting the figure of 8 lead on and off him so he would be used to it by the following week and we ditched the harness.

I was dreading week 2 just in case he was even worse but he surprised us all and paid us back in spades by being an absolute angel and I dont think anyone could believe the difference in him.

Dog training isnt a once a week thing, it’s every day multiple times a day. It is a commitment, you get out of your dog what you put in. You wouldnt expect to learn French doing one hour a week, so it annoys me when people think you only need to do the training exercises for the duration of the class.

I wouldn’t be without Dembe and I cant thank Happy Dogs enough for all their help and support

If you want to read about our first night at dog training you can find it here https://thedembediaries.com/2019/06/10/w-c-3rd-june-2019/

As my back was really bad I went up to bed early. Jay sent me some photo’s via messenger to make me laugh as Dembe was making a silly face and sleeping in a strange position!

Saturday 6th June

As my back is bad I am having a quite day. Dembe seems to be enjoying that.

He was less impressed though as I started to write this week’s blog entry copying it over from the hard copy I keep

After Sprout had been lobbed at me for possibly the 4th or 5th time I asked Jay to play with Dembe whilst I carried on with the blog post. They played on the floor together for around an hour and then played nudge for 30 minutes. Dembe is sound asleep now after that manic 90 minutes.

Tomorrow his uncle Paul will see him for the first time since March. We are socially distancing having a coffee in the back garden. Dembe has always adored Paul so I think he is going to go cray cray!

Jay got sent to pets at home with a list today. Im pretty sure the list didn’t contain the words new toy or elephant!

Sunday 6th June

Dembe got up early with me which is a rarity as normally he likes staying upstairs with his dad. He settled down beside me and went straight to sleep.

As predicted Dembe went crazy when Paul arrived and was basically throwing himself at Paul. He has missed him as much as we have. He has known Paul since he was tiny and out of all our friends he is probably the one person that he see’s on the most regular basis so not to have seen him since March is the longest time ever. I’m always amazed how dogs remember people.

W/C 25th May 2020

Monday 25th May

It is bank holiday Monday here in the UK, Jay is working as he is having the weekend off. He was supposed to be going to see Guns and Roses in Concert on Saturday but due to Covid-19 that has all been put on hold until next year. For some bizarre reason I have been awake since 4am so at least we have all had some time together before he goes to work. Dembe is fine he thinks it is an ordinary work day.

Dembe and I are both struggling with the heat, it seems to have got hot out of nowhere. As his old cool mat is ruined as I didnt store it properly I have ordered him a new one.

Jay manages to finish early so he cleans out Dembe’s paddling pool and refills it much to Dembe’s delight. He is splashing around and enjoying himself out in the garden for ages this afternoon whilst I crack on with some embroidery pieces I am working on.

After all the running around in the garden this afternoon he conks out just past 7pm! Jay can’t believe how loud he is snoring but I point out to him but it is still nowhere near as loud as Frankie Morris when he was alive!

Tuesday 26th March

Jay has two late nights this week and today is the first of them, he gets Dembe out around 5.30am and then they both head back to bed. Dembe has got really good at settling down and going back to sleep in the morning. When he was very young we didn’t have a hope in hell of getting him to settle. Now he is more than happy to go back to bed.

Whenever I try to take photos of my crochet Dembe always manages to photo bomb it so today I used him as a prop as I took a quick a shot to show my progress in the last 24 hours. He is so good he never makes a fuss.

In the afternoon Dembe and I played in the garden

He loves to take my slippers and try to chew the label off the inside. I am always finding my slipper out in the garden.

Wednesday 27th March

At long last Dembe’s Cool Mat arrived, it is huge it covers most of the 3 seater sofa which is ideal as it means that Dembe can stretch out on it. The heat today is stifling and we are both struggling with it.

My back is really bad today so I am not able to do much at all.

Thursday 28th May

Jay is late night again today, so once again he has taken Dembe out early and returned to bed. When I got up at 8.30am I wandered into his room and found them like this

Neither of them stirred as I took the photo and I didnt see them for another hour!

Again another bad back day that was lived through a haze of painkillers and pain.

Friday 29th May

He is loving the cool mat! His second one for upstairs is arriving today not that he is spoiled. It means I don’t have to carry anything upstairs as I can’t hold anything heavier than a mug at the moment as my back is just awful. Sorry Dembe this is your blog and I’m moaning all over it. He has been a good boy and knows that I am not right and is sticking to my side constantly.

Saturday 30th May

It is crazy hot again, Dembe is being a very good boy whilst his dad sorts out the garden shed and then paints some shelves.

We moved some bits around in the garden and Dembe seems to approve. Jay got the the rattan sunbed off the shed roof and Dembe has now claimed that as his.

Jay found 2 footballs down by our shed and gave them to Dembe who thought all his Christmases had come at once with having all these footballs to play with. The heat is ridiculous though and we have all had to come indoors to get out of it for a bit.

Sunday 31st May

Dembe is such a good boy, he is modelling my crocheted shawl I managed to complete last night

My little puddin’ looked after me during the night as I had another migraine…deep joy. He came in and cuddled up to me. When I told him to go and get his daddy for me off he went with his blue dinosaur in his mouth to wake up his dad.

Thankfully due to the new med’s the worst part of the attack was short lived and I have felt groggy all day but not horrendous.

He is loving the sun bed we got out for the garden yesterday however it appears that he now thinks this is his and not mine.

Sunday has been spent having lots of Dembe cuddles.

W/C 18th May 2020

Monday 18th May

Photo of Dembe waiting at the window for his daddy to get home for his lunch break. DEmbe goes to the window everyday when Jay is at work at around 1pm. As soon as Jay gets home Dembe runs to his toy box and brings him a toy. He has done this since he was a tiny scrap of a thing. When he wakes us in the mornings he always brings us his Blue dinosaur which was the very first toy I chose and bought for him.



This video was taken on Sunday afternoon too late to be posted on his blog. The weather was lovely so we managed to get Dembe’s tunnel out and have him going through that out in the garden. He really does love his tunnels. He also spent a lot of last Sunday sunbathing.

He loves lying out on this bit of artificial grass and catching the rays. He will take out his chews and lie in the sun munching on them!

Tuesday 19th May

I had a terrible migraine today. Dembe slept on the bed with me on and off all day as I couldn’t get out of bed until late in the afternoon.

Jay told me later that day that Dembe had met up with the Great Dane puppy again. He said Dembe scampered off around a bend only to come back seconds later in full zoomie mode. Whites of his eyes showing, with the Great Dane Pup galloping along behind him. They went on to have a massive game of chase with Dembe running underneath it!

No photos of Dembe today as I was just too poorly.

Wednesday 20th May

Today is a bit foggy ( mentally for me) due to the migraine. I was really emotional all day and Dembe seemed to sense this and stuck to me like glue.

As Jay had cleaned out Dembe’s paddling pool I decided to refill it for him. Dembe went absolutely crazy like he always does when his pool is cleaned and refilled.

Dembe was running in and out of the house, up and down in the garden and then diving into his pool. We also played nudge with his football for a while. He got absolutely drenched and I used the opportunity to groom him as my goodness he is moulting at the moment.

Thursday 21st May

Dembe is very clingy, this migraine has really knocked me for 6 I am just so tired and feeling very fragile. He has patiently followed me everywhere around the house ensuring I am safe. Even though I have nearly fallen over him on numerous occasions.

My new bed set arrived today of course Dembe was the first one on it, not that I minded. I didn’t think through the colour choice though as when Dembe is on it if I look in the room quickly I can’t see him LOL

Friday 22nd May

I am still suffering after this migraine and Dembe is still my shadow bless him. He does make me feel much safer when Jay is at work and I am home alone. I am very grateful to have my dear Doctor Dembe.

I didn’t manage to get many photos today but I did get some cute ones of him in the kitchen just before he had his dinner. Today with his dinner he was spoiled as I gave him the sardines in tomato sauce that his best friend Sam got him. I know that they are both missing each other due to this bloody Covid -19. I can’t wait for them to meet up again when we are all able to.

Saturday 23rd May

Jay took Dembe out at 5.30am, gave him his breakfast and then went back up to bed again. Dembe woke me up at 8am. He stood at the bedroom door crying and wagging his tail. I got up and came downstairs.

At around 9.15am Dembe walked past me with his football in his mouth and took it upstairs. I chuckled as I knew what was going to happen next. I then heard Jay say “thank you” rather sarcastically as Dembe had gone in to wake him up and dropped it on his head! Jay’s lie on was over.

Hilariously after 15 minutes of Jay being up Dembe was fast asleep on the sofa beside him.

He has been such a cuddly boy all day

Dembe was very good today as Jay was late night. Jay popped home at dinner time to whizz Dembe around the block. We went up to bed at around 8pm and Dembe settled immediately.

Sunday 24th May

Dembe was a cuddly boy again today and spent ages lying on my lap asleep this morning.

I spent the morning mending Dembe’s toys that were broken through play not deliberate destruction. I also had to mend his bed as that had a tear in it.

Dembe sleeping in his favourite place, on top of his dad’s dressing gown.

W/C 20th April 2020

Monday 20th April 2020

I have no idea what it is about my crochet but whenever I lay it on the floor to measure it or photograph it Dembe has to climb on it immediately!

We had a quiet day today, Dembe is really enjoying having his daddy home all the time but is getting worse with separation anxiety whenever Jay leaves the house without him, even though I am home.

The highlight of his day was getting a new toy from his friend Sam who he hasn’t been able to see due to the lock down. He now is the proud owner of a Toucan!

Tuesday 21st April

Today we decided to get Dembe’s paddling pool out as the weather has been really lovely over the last few days and very hot. As Jay cleaned it out Dembe cried at the back door with excitement. He went a little crazy when he was finally allowed outside.

He was so excited he flaked out after his walk in the afternoon. He adores his paddling pool and will play in it as often as he can. Unfortunately his solar fountain was broken so we had to get him a new one.

Wednesday 22nd April

Jay took Dembe to Woodbury Castle this morning for a walk for a change and they had a good explore of the woods. Dembe liked the change of location.

He is still waking up at 5am every morning since it started getting lighter. Thankfully Jay gets up with him then as if I do I am really out of it and at risk of a fall / faint.

He likes playing a game with his tennis balls, footballs etc where he throws them and then catches them.

Dembe has played outside a few times today with Ben and Freddie. He now thinks he is the king of the street.

Dembe was playing with Ben next door over the garden fence. Ben found Dembe a tennis ball and threw it into the paddling pool for him. Dembe was trying to jump up the fence to get a cuddle from him.

Thursday 23rd April


Dembe looked after me first thing this morning as I woke up at around 3am with a migraine well under way. I managed to sleep the worst of it off and woke up with Dembe curled up against me on the bed. He had gone out for a walk, had his breakfast and come back onto the bed all without waking me. He stuck to me like glue for the rest of the day.

Dembe enjoyed clapping for carers again, barking along with the pots being hit and fireworks going off. He was keen to get Ben next door out again so barked at his front door until he did. He had a play with Ben and the foot ball again.

He is so good with the fireworks going off, they were really loud and he didn’t bat an eyelid.

Friday 24th April

Well after all those warm sunny days there was a distinctive chill in the air. It didn’t bother Dembe though as he wanted out in the garden whenever he could. He is now branching out and using all the chairs in the back garden to sit and watch the world go by.

Dembe’s venison sausage treats came today. Oh my word they went down well. Just as well as I have ordered him a load more – to up the treat value and I also ordered him an Elk antler chew as his antlers that we bought him last year are now getting quite small.

Saturday 25th April

I am sure that Dembe is listening for the 5am news on The World Service as it seems within minutes of that coming on he starts crying to let me know he wants his dad to take him out. I managed to get back to sleep and didn’t come around until 7.30am.

Dembe has been full of beans all day demanding attention and rarely going to sleep. It has been a bit of a nightmare as Jay and I have both have had things to do.

Jay put a piece of the artificial grass down on the gravel and Dembe loves lying on it in the full sun. He can also see Ben when he is in the garden next door from here!

I managed to get Dembes new solar fountain going in his paddling pool. It then rapidly clouded over! He did manage to get soaked trying to dig it out of the pool.

The first time all day (17.15) that he has settled down for a snooze!

Sunday 26th April

Dembe decided to chance his luck by crying at 4.30am, he was most surprised when he got told off by me and sloped off to his dads room at 5am. He woke Jay up at 5.30am. Apparently he had three huge dumps on his walk, which would probably be the reason why he wanted out so early.

W/C Monday 9th March 2020

Monday 9th March

Jay was on his usual shift, as it was pissing down with rain – his words not mine he decided to give Dembe a walk around the block. He was out for 30 minutes trying to get the little bugger to have a poo. He flat out refused so they both came back to the house soaked through.

I was a bit concerned that Dembe would be a pain in the bum having not been properly as today was the third meeting of my craft group. However he was really well behaved. We meet up fortnightly at our house the group can be just 4 or up to 7 of us. Dembe initially was getting very over excited as we simply don’t have that many people coming to the house. However with these regular meet ups it has really calmed him down. He spent most of the meeting ( 2.5 hours) lying at my feet asleep. I did try sitting on the pouffe but he jumped up and knocked me flying so I swapped it out for a kitchen chair. It was hilarious. Thank goodness I wasn’t wearing a skirt as my legs were up in the air and I was flat on my back having my face licked. Much to the amusement of my friends.

Tuesday 10th March

He still loves climbing up onto my lap

We have a busy day today with Jay day off. We have several friends coming over. As one of them is bring her two week old baby Jay is popping into pets at home to get some bulls tails for Dembe. He loves chewing on them more than being fussed by visitors.

As is usual when daddy goes to pets at home he buys Dembe a toy……like he hasn’t got any! So today Daddy bought Dembe a baby T rex. I sometimes wonder if Jay if fulfilling his childhood dream of having lots of dinosaur toys!

I did emergency surgery on a few toys – two crocodiles and a carrot. All damaged in the line of duty whilst playing tug. Thankfully he doesn’t sit and destroy toys.

Sandra popped over for a coffee late in the morning and Dembe was only too happy to have some cuddles with her. He was very calm as he had seen her the day before. It is really going well having lots of people visiting which is why it is so sad that with this Covid business we may not have many visitors for a few months.

As Kat was coming with her baby we decided we would take Dembe out and give him a nice long walk before she arrived so that he would be less energetic. He has met babies before but it was quite a while ago. He seems to be very tuned into people, like with Sam and when Sandra broke her ankle when he was a tiny pup, so is always very gentle. I am more worried about him accidentally hurting the baby. I am sure he will be fine but initially we will keep him in the kitchen to ensure he has calmed down before letting him in.

He had a lovely walk although was a bit muddy when he got back. He gets hosed off in the garden with no issues at all. Normally the Weimaraners would run a mile at the hose going on. Where as Dembe runs towards it, he still wanders into the shower cubicle most mornings whilst I am having a shower.

Kat arrived with baby Logan. It went perfectly. Dembe was curious and gave Logan lots of sniffs . He was very sweet, when I was holding Logan he jumped onto the sofa kissed me and then gave Logan the tiniest of licks. Logan was fine, I would have been mortified if he then screamed the place down but as Kat has dogs herself he was very good. Dembe was very interested in the car seat which is what happened when he was a puppy and we met baby Orla.

He was pretty shattered after his busy day and was having very long naps on the sofa only to discover that it was also dog training. Training this evening went brilliantly, he was easily the top of the class tonight. Very little barking, unlike the week before where he decided he would be a gob shite. He was the only dog when they were doing a sit stay exercise and then putting their toy down in front of them that didn’t break his stay. Also Martin the trainer came up and told Jay out of all the dogs, Dembe was the only one who wouldn’t be distracted when they were having a play session. Our training sessions are broken up with regular plays sessions for a few minutes so that the dogs associate the learning with lots of fun. Dembe and Jay have a whale of a time when they start playing and all he wants is Jay. The other dogs all get easily distracted even when playing with their owners. Jay and I pride ourselves that no matter how tired we are or how shitty we are feeling Dembe has at least one play session a day with us. It could be we find it – which is really a training session dressed up as playtime, it could be chase, cuddles and tug of war. Anything at all that strengthens the bond between us.

I have also over the months slowly disengaged from Dembe when he is in training so that when Jay does any exercise when he is off the lead he doesn’t bolt back to me. I am no longer the distraction I was to him. It is hard especially when he has done really well during an exercise as all I want to do is cuddle him and tell him what a star he has been.

Wednesday 11th March

Jay is late night tonight, so Dembe has had an early walk. He will get another walk at around 11am to ensure he has done as much of his business as possible before Jay goes to work. We have had a lazy morning and Dembe is absolutely shattered after yesterday!

I have managed to crack on with some sewing this afternoon and made Dembe some new treat bags for dog training class.

I made the prototypes of these last summer and the last one finally broke last night. I am amazed it has lasted as long as it did. I have made a few of these recently as presents and it was only after the one broke last night that I realised that Dembe only had the generic Good Boy one I made and had never had one that was personalised for him. I put #Team Dembe due to that’s what we are called at dog training.

As Jay is late night I ended up playing find it bunny with Dembe for ages. He just keeps going and going. I was having to stay up waiting for a delivery ( which never arrived) so Dembe was convinced his dad would be home soon and kept going to the door.

This is when I start to feel useless as I can’t walk him and although he has access to the garden he is refusing more and more to use it eve for going for a wee. Eventually I did get him to go. But he went for loads of wee’s when Jay took him out when he got home.

Thursday 12th March

As Jay was on a 9-6 today Dembe got a nice long walk on the common before he went to work. It has been dry for a few days so for a change he didn’t need washed off. When he got back I gave him his breakfast. Jay couldn’t believe how quickly he ate it and then licked the bowl clean. It is safe to say he is enjoying this new batch of food. Back in January when I started cooking for him I never imagined that he would enjoy it this much. I was worried I would be left with a freezer full of dog food that after 4 weeks he went off. Thankfully that hasn’t been the case.

I did some more sewing today but had regular breaks so I could have Dembe cuddles. He hates it when Jay is on a 9-6 shift, so from 5pm was quite hard work.

As soon as he saw me get the coats out he knew his dad was coming home. So he spent the next 5 minutes at the window waiting for his dad.

It was really light this evening so it was quite busy at the airfield. Today he had a lovely walk with a black Labrador the same age as him called Luna. They were running around like crazy, although he refused to follow Luna into the gorse bushes, he has never been a fan of going off the path. By the time he and Jay got back to the car he was utterly exhausted. I do love it when he has had a chance to have some fun with another dog as he loves to play.

Friday 13th March

Dembe had one of his days where he slept the majority of the day, so I cracked on with some sewing that I wanted to do.

As Jay was on another 9-6 shift he took Dembe out before he went to work up to Woodbury Castle. He said it was deserted and they had a nice long walk. By the time Jay got back is was torrential rain. Dembe was a bit better today waiting for Jay to get home, although he was keen to get out even with the rain. I got his coat on ready for when Jay got in so he could go straight out.

Saturday 14th March

Jay is on an early shift today, as it was dry he took Dembe up the common and gave him a proper run about before heading into work. However when I finally got up at around 7am you would have thought Dembe had never been out as he was like a coiled spring. Bringing me toy after toy attempting to get me to play with hims whilst I was struggling to wake up.

No sewing this morning I need a rest from it. So I have spent the morning updating Dembe’s blog from the hard copy I keep onto his blog ready for Monday when it will be published. My little puddin’ has slept beside me on the sofa for most of the morning.

Dembe has slept most of the day although he went absolutely mental when his dad came home. He had another lovely walk playing with another doggy friend.

Sunday 15th March

We are all having a quiet day. Due to the current Covid-19 issue we are limiting our contact with the outside world as much as possible.

Stay safe everyone

W/C 2nd March 2020

Monday 2nd March

Dembe and I had a very quiet day today as we were both shattered after helping dad with the decorating last week. I am sure Jay went back to work for a rest. I was so knackered I went up to bed for a nap at 2pm and slept until 4.30pm.

Dembe was so good and got straight back into the routine of Jay being in work. He is quite like Mollie in that he knows the difference between his dad in his work uniform and dad in his civvies and what it means.

I took a couple of good photos on Sunday.

Tuesday 3rd March

Dembe was taken up the common by Jay nice and early. They went to the model airfield where they met an elderly chocolate Labrador. The old boy was more than happy to play with Dembe although he did struggle to keep up with him.

I had the doctors at 10.10am so Jay and Dembe dropped me off and had a wander around town. He went around the market where the pet shop stall were feeding hims sausage! He also went into a friends shop, which is also great experience for him. It was very busy down the town and lots of noisy traffic. It didn’t phase him which was great as it means our early environment training has paid off.

waiting for a belly rub

We had dog training this evening, after a week of reduced barking Dembe decided to be a gobshite. In the end Martin came over and got him to be quiet. It is for attention and when he gets bored, wants you to play etc. So at dog training he hates standing around doing nothing. SO I have asked Jay in future when Martin is talking to do sit and stay exercises with Dembe. That way he thinks he is still working and he should be quiet. He never barks on a walk or when moving at dog training. It purely is a boredom thing. At home he liked to bark if he felt Jay and I were ignoring him but he has stopped doing that now.

About 20 minutes into the session the barking was under control. Dembe seems to need a 30 minute warm up before he is in the right place to learn. Which is strange as he gets a walk before he goes, I think however as he sees his mates before class maybe he gets too excited and it takes time for him to get back into the learning zone. By the end of the lesson Dembe and Jay were working beautifully together. It was so choreographed they looked like they were dancing or working to music.

I do worry that we expect an awful lot from him when he still is only a babe in arms at 15 months. Mind you however old he is he will always be our puppy.

Wednesday 4th March

Dembe decided this morning that we all needed to be out of bed at 5.45am which made him supremely popular! By 7.15am I was hanging out of my arse! He however was beside me on the sofa snoring his head off the little bugger.

I am so pleased with how he is getting on with his home cooked meals. What a joy it is now to feed him, I no longer get so stressed out and upset that he isn’t eating properly. He is looking fab and he is definitely moulting less since changing him over to the majority of his meals being fresh food.

Today Uncle Paul came over. Dembe always gets over excited when Paul comes to visit so I put him in the kitchen and shut the baby gate before letting Paul in. I kept him behind the gate until I knew he was calm. He let me down on the barking front but that was because he had slept all bloody morning and was now wide awake and raring to go.

Sleeping before Paul arrived

I got a great photo of Dembe sleeping in the afternoon

bawls out

As I crept up on him I started to take photos. This next photo as he wakes up and sees me is hilarious

Every time I look at the photo I can’t stop laughing. His face is so funny!

Thursday 5th March

Jay was on an early today so he took him on a walk around the streets, Dembe refused to go for a poo, which was a bit silly as he won’t be going out again until Jay gets home tonight. Although he does have access to the garden.

I got some sewing done in the morning but I managed to mess up my neck, so by 2pm I have a crippling headache. I can barely string a sentence together so Dembe and I went up to bed. Dembe was a super star, he was a bit perturbed by my oxygen being on for so long and came and gave my nasal cannula a good sniff. He then settled down and went to sleep on my bed.

I got up at 4.30pm as I knew Jay was coming home at 5pm. Dembe and I sat by the window.

Friday 6th March

Jay is on a late today so he took Dembe out for a nice long walk to ensure he would be ok for the rest of the day. Jay will be taking him out again when he gets home at around 10pm and Dembe has access to the garden all day.

Unfortunately at around 4.30pm Dembe starting crying and going to the front door. It was clear that he needed a poo. I am unable to walk him, I just can’t walk very far at all. My mobility scooter was in the back of my husbands car and Dembe still isn’t trained to walk alongside me, with me holding the lead. So I had no way of getting him out for a walk. I kept letting him out in the garden but it became very clear I would have to get Jay to pop home on his lunch break and take him around the block.

Jay got home and took him out for 15 minutes. Dembe had two huge dumps almost immediately, so I was right he had been complaining that he couldn’t go for a walk. When he got back from the walk I was expecting him to settle but he didn’t we ended up playing find it bunny for an hour. By the end I had him finding bunny in the washing machine drum and from the tumble dryer!

Eventually he did settle at around 19.30pm. When Jay got in he took Dembe out around the block again to ensure he wouldn’t want to get up too early.

Saturday 7th March

Jay is on another bloody late. It is quite rare that Jay works two on the bounce , I just hope Dembe doesn’t kick off tonight like he did last night.

As he was working until late Jay took Dembe out first thing and then again at 11am to ensure he had got everything out that he could. On Dembes walk he was playing with a female black Labrador that was much bigger than him and had a whale of a time.

Dembe has been very vocal today

He has always been a very vocal dog, from about 9 weeks old he was expressing himself.

We are having to stay up later than usual as I am waiting for a delivery from Hermes ( so surprised it never ever turned up). So I switched on Crufts to see what Dembe would do, as you can see it didn’t stay on for long as he insisted on attempting to talk to the dogs on the tv.

Sunday 8th March

Dembe decided we all needed to get up at 6.30am. I managed to keep him occupied for 15 minutes whilst I came to and got some fluids and meds into my system. I decided to get up and crack on with Dembe’s food preparation for the month. I may have gone slightly overboard but I want to ensure that if the Corona virus comes to this house at least Dembe has food. All it will take is food to be got out of the freezer and defrosted and he is ready to go.

Jay got Dembe out and took him up to Woodbury Castle for a nice long walk to burn off some energy. It appears to be working as he is snoring his head off beside me.

Its been crazy here only just managed to squeeze all Dembe’s meals into the freezers. At least I wont have to cook for him for quite a while !

W/C 16th December 2019

Monday 16th December

Just to give you all a heads up the blog aka me will be taking a break over the Christmas and New year period, so this will be the last blog post of 2019. We obviously have Christmas and then we will have the first anniversaries of Frankie 29th December and then Mollie 5th January, passing and to be fair I just want to spend time with Jay and Dembe quietly remembering them both. It is difficult as well with them both being on a Sunday which is the day I normally type up the blog from the hard copy I have kept during the week. So the blog will be back up and running on Monday 13th January 2020. I will do a round up of Christmas and New year in that post and of course there will be lots of photos.

If you are missing Dembe you can keep up to date with him on his Facebook page The Dembe Diaries, where odd bits and pieces will be posted during this period.

Dembe was out early for a walk today as Jay was on his usual silly o’clock start time today. Dembe then came straight back to bed and we slept until after 7am. Nearly a lie on!

I did some sewing today well embroidery really. Dembe amused himself whilst I was at the machine. He was incredibly excited when his dried cows ears arrived today. I got him a bag of 50! That should keep him chewing for a while.

I found out this evening that I have won a doggy treat hamper ( contents worth £80 ) . The competition was a quiz that was being run to celebrate being in business for 15 years. Happy dogs made the announcement via their Facebook page.

I was so surprised and very chuffed as it took me ages to find all the answers to the quiz.

Tuesday 17th December

Busy day here as today is Jays last day off before Christmas, which seems crazy but yes Christmas is next week. He has lots of jobs to do one of them being picking up the hamper from Happy Dogs!

Mike and Alison popped over at 10.15am with a card and a present for Dembe. He is such a spoiled boy. I am so grateful to all the people who buy him things. We all can’t thank you enough.

He was walking around carrying this doing the typical Labrador whole body wag. Every time anyone looked like they might try to take it off him he put his head down and turned away. He did keep going up on the sofa trying to give Alison a kiss.

Jay brought back the hamper which was enormous

It was filled with lots of brilliant things. There is a new lead which will be fab for agility training. There is a high viz vest for Dembe to wear when it is dark on his early morning or evening walks. Lots of toys, a tugger, some balls, treat dispenser and Dembe’s absolute favourite a dinky duck, for my dinky dot.

He also really likes the tub of dried meaty treats, full of gorgeous sounding things like Tripe sticks and Beef Trachea. Stinky as hell but he absolutely loves it. There were so many lovely things in the hamper it was brilliant and a wonderful surprise.

Wednesday 18th December

Uncle Paul popped over very early this morning, thankfully after Dembe had his walk. I gave Dembe a cows ear to chomp on and get him to calm down as he tends to get very over excited with Paul. Probably because he visits us the most and we don’t tend to get many visitors. Paul said how much calmer he was so hopefully that’s a tool in our arsenal.

Jay is on a late night tonight so Dembe hasn’t slept much this morning as when his pack is all together he likes to get as much attention from them as possible.

I managed to get some machine embroidery done in the afternoon as Dembe conked out, As soon as I finished and sat on the sofa he jumped on me and grabbed my thumb.

He has done this since he was a tiny pup, he just sits there holding it in his mouth. He is such a quirky little thing.

Something he loves to do when it is just me and him at home on an evening is to emoty his toy box out completely and scatter his toys all over the lounge floor.

As it was just me and the boy we went up to bed early. The weather is absolutely rotten and as if by magic the wind really started up making lots of noise and causing the loft hatch to bang and the letter box to rattle. This upset Dembe and he started to bark and then run down stairs and bark. He wasn’t frightened he was guarding me bless him and he takes that job very seriously. Eventually he settled back down and went to sleep on my lap.

Thursday 19th December

This bloody rain it never seems to stop. I have decided to ask Santa for a dinghy or a small sail boat as driving anywhere will be impossible if this continues. Jay braved it and took Dembe out for an early walk as he is on a 6am start again. Dembe came back to bed after being dried off and stayed with me until gone 7am.

Dembe has been knackered today and slept much of the day which has been great for me as I have been able to crack on with my embroidery machine quilt.

Jay is out to the cinema this evening and it has left Dembe very unsettled. He has cried for Jay He really does love having his pack together. Eventually he settled down and went to sleep Velcro’d to my side. He raced downstairs when Jay got in at 11pm, thankfully he didn’t bark.

Friday 20th December

As you all know form reading previous posts, Dembe has a thing about his vegetable toys. At the moment he is mad keen on his sprout again. As we know he loves this toy we couldn’t resist buying this sprout Christmas decoration for him when we saw it a few weeks ago.

I spent a bit of time today finishing up sewing jobs ready for Christmas . So Dembe had to entertain himself. He was in a playful mood so in the evening we had a long game of find it as Jay was on his second late night of the week. By the time we toddled off to bed Dembe was shattered.

Saturday 21st December

Jay was on an early today so he took Dembe out for a quick walk up the common in the dark. Dembe has got used to going out at night / in darkness, so isn’t as bothered as he used to be and will leave the car. When he was smaller he would refuse to leave the house before 7am! I won a high viz vest in the Hamper so we have been using that as well as his bicycle light and it makes it much easier for Jay to see him.

We had a cuddly afternoon

Dembe went to sleep on the coats at 4,30pm desperately wanting his dad to come home so he could have a walk.

Sunday 22nd December

Its been a busy day today with Christmas right around the corner. We had friends come over. Liam who is 6 played football with Dembe using his sprout toy as the ball. By the time Liam left Dembe was shattered he had a wonderful time.

I just want to say to everyone thank you for the reading Dembe’s blog, thank you for the likes and comments. Merry Christmas and Happy new year. See you all in January 2020.

W/C 19th August 2019

Monday 19th August

Dembe was a very sleepy boy today. We seem to have days where he is manic and days where he sleeps all day long. He either likes to sleep on me / next to me or on the small sofa in the lounge, scooched up on cushions.

For some reason today Dembe wanted to bark at everything, no idea what was bothering him but every little noise he heard that came from outside was being barked at. Noises like kids playing, neighbours talking, cars driving past were being barked at . He was even running upstairs and barking out of Jays bedroom window which is something Mollie used to do. It was very strange. He also spent a lot of time in his favourite place on the window ledge.

We did have lots of cuddles which was gorgeous. I managed to capture this photo and I realised how much it looked like a photo I took 9 months ago when he was 9 weeks old.

When we got back from taking Dembe out for his walk this evening we came across a curled up hedgehog on our front garden. We managed to get Dembe inside without seeing it.

We took him across the road to my neighbours house as their garden although enclosed backs on to a lane where it would be safer and more full of food sources for him / her. I checked him over and there were no parasites or open wounds.

Tuesday 20th August

Dembe didn’t wake up until 5.30am for his breakfast, Jay was so out of it when I woke him he started having a go at me for letting him oversleep by an hour. I didn’t say anything as I knew he was still half asleep. He had woken up thinking it was Monday. He did apologise later and said he had got confused and was convinced he was going to be late for work.

When Dembe woke up for the second time he was determined to have all the pack together, so he went into Jays room to wake him up.

A friends husband popped up today to borrow my wheelchair for his wife Julie. She is recovering from a huge operation on her ankle and can’t weight bare at all at the moment. Get well soon Julie. Dembe was really shy with Nigel to begin with, we think it is because we don’t have many male visitors to the house and not ones he doesn’t know. Dembe kept running over to me and standing over me. We haven’t seen him act like that before ( but with the barking yesterday he seems a bit out of sorts) . By the time Nigel left, Dembe adored him and was playing tug, ball and kissing Nigel. It was very sweet. After Nigel left Dembe was shattered.

We had a lovely walk together in the afternoon, we went out longer than normal which was good fun, although my mobility scooter really didn’t like the gradient. Dembe led the way all the way around our little circuit. He went straight to sleep when we got in and we had to wake him up for dinner.

We needn’t have worried about him being so tired as he got a second wind about two hours later and we were playing out in the garden with him.

Wednesday 21st August

Dembe had breakfast at 5am, Dembe had been stirring for a while. Jay decided to stay up as he was taking Dembe out for a walk before work. Either Dembe settled or I was so knackered that I went back to sleep and I didn’t wake up until they got back from their walk at the model airfield.

As Dembe hates going out for an early walk Jay had to bribe him with two cocktail sausages to get him out of the front door. He really isn’t a morning dog! Just as well Jay went out early, as part way through the walk he got a call to ask him to go in earlier. Good for us as it means he will be home earlier .

Dembe is following around the house, to the point I am tripping up on him. I am really suffering bad headaches at the moment due to my neck coming out of alignment when I sleep and I am sure Dembe is picking up on the fact it makes me feel so rotten.

He was again on the window ledge watching the world go by!

Uncle Paul popped over today to collect a parcel that I had delivered here for him. Dembe was over excited, he just loves Paul so much he gets silly. He embarrassed himself as he knocked Paul’s coffee into his lap ( thank god it didn’t burn him) as he brought his football over for Paul to throw for him but barged into him. I could have died. Paul took it in his stride and said it didn’t matter. I really wish that Dembe didn’t get so excited when he see’s some people as he then ends up behaving like a hooligan until he calms down.

I managed to finish the quilting on my quilt today. It still needs bound but the hardest part is done. Dembe has been so well behaved whilst I have done this and just entertained himself or slept whilst I worked on it.

Thursday 22nd August

Oh my days my head is even worse today. I am having to wear my soft collar a lot of the time to keep the pressure off my neck. Dembe is being very good and looking after me. Jay is on a late night so got Dembe out nice and early for a good walk.

He has been on the window sill every day this week, at least twice a day. He loves it there.

I went up to bed at 7pm but Dembe wouldn’t come up with me. He has started waiting for Jay to come home so refuses to move away from the small sofa by the front door. He won’t come up to bed now until Jay gets home after 10pm. I hate it as Frankie and Mollie always used to come up to bed with me, it feels weird being in bed by myself. Willow would always wait for her dad so would sleep on the landing or half way down the stairs so she could see him get in before everyone else. He only started doing this last week. I had hoped it was a one off. I hope at some point he decides to stay with me until his daddy gets in. But I won’t force him to stay upstairs.

Friday 23rd August

Dembe woke me up at 6.30am by dropping a tennis ball on my face! Not even remotely funny, I haven’t had a great nights sleep and he has been crying trying to wake me up since he came back upstairs after his breakfast.

As Jay is on a 10-7 shift he got Dembe up the common quite early. He went to the model airfield again where they met another Labrador aged 17 months called Sid. They had a crazy time playing together, they played chase which is Dembe’s favourite. By the time he got home he was hot and knackered.

We have been messing around today having cuddles on the bed. My head yest again is crap so I have been lying down on and off trying to ease the feeling of pressure at the base of my skull. During one of these play periods Dembe has managed to scratch my arm with his dew claw. My skin is very fragile due to Ehlers Danlos Syndrome so what would be a normal scratch on others is this on me

As the weather is really nice I got Dembe’s paddling pool out. He went crazy! I haven’t seen him like that since the garden was revamped and he got to play on it for the first time! He was running to the back of the garden and then leaping into the paddling pool. For his own safety in the end I had to turn the hosepipe off as I was terrified he was going to slip and then really injure himself. We still had fun out in the garden though. Just calmer fun. I also got his solar fountain out and had that running.

Saturday 24th August

This photo really made me laugh today

Especially when captioned with “Truth be told Dembe was never going to win the World Championship of Hide & Seek” or “has anyone seen Dembe? I can’t find him”. He is such a silly sausage sometimes all Jay and i can do is laugh at him.

My arm is looking a bit of a mess today as more of the bruising has come out. Thankfully it isn’t hurting anymore.

My head was muzzy again today so I have taken it quite easy, well as easy as I could manage. In the evening we went over to my parents van after Dembe had his walk. He had a good game of chase with Maggie going crazy and stealing her raw hide again.

Sunday 25th August

Dembe having a snooze after his walk up the common with daddy this morning. Today they went to Woodbury castle but as it was early and very misty they didn’t see another soul the whole time they were out.

As I am writing up this week’s diary entries into his Blog, Dembe has got on the window sill and is watching me work. He likes lying so that his nose is almost touching my shoulder. He looks like he is reading what I am writing!

Jay is on holiday now for a week so we shall be spending lots of time together, which Dembe will love. He loves his pack being all together,

W/C 24th June 2019 2nd week of Holiday

Monday 24th June

This is Jays second week of his holiday, Dembe has really enjoyed having us both home. Jay took him out early for his walk and then at around 10am we went to the local garden centre (different one from last week) . We had a wander around the grounds and then we went to the cafe as they had an easily accessible outside area.

I’d give Dembe a 7/10 for his behaviour at the garden centre as I wish he would just learn to settle down rather than be terrified he is missing out on something. We actually call him FOMO ( fear of missing out) . He did bark and although it was embarrassing I am going to give him a pass for this one. There was a lady being pushed in a squeaky wheel chair. It sounded just like one of Dembe’s squeaky toys. As soon as she was pushed past her Dembe gave a couple of barks. We know he doesn’t have issues with wheelchairs, he has seen me in mine, he saw loads at the hospital last week. The barking was triggered by the squeaking.

He did cry a few times and he spent the time moving between Jay and I getting treats. The staff were telling us how well behaved he was for such a young dog. Although he let himself down by jumping up at the waitress when she brought a tray over. Again that is also our fault because Jay had given him too much lead.

After the garden centre we popped to the vets to get Dembe weighed as we have cut down his food due to the amount of treats he is getting due to training and to prevent him from getting fat. He weighed in at 26.6kg so his weight gain has slowed, we don’t want him losing weight we just don’t want him packing it and getting tubby.

The vet popped his head around the door and gave him a quick once over and he said that he is still growing so not to panic. He is big for a labrador, just to check I measured him against one of my quilting rulers and from the floor to his shoulder is 23 inches so just under 2ft at the shoulder. The vet told us to keep doing what we are doing.

Tuesday 25th June

I was knackered after all our running around yesterday so haven’t written much in his dairy for today. We spent the afternoon lying on my bed which he always loves.

He had his first taste of Lamb breast bone today which he loved and polished off very quickly.

He spent a bit of time in the garden in his favourite chair as well.

Wednesday 26th June

Oh dear Dembe doesn’t seem to get on with Lamb. He had a couple of runny poos this morning. Thankfully last weekend I bought some stuff to settle canine dicky tums so we gave him a syringe full of that, which he happily took. It did the trick as his stomach calmed right down and his poos went back to being firm. Probably TMI

The little toad had me up at the crack of dawn – 5.30am and refused to go back to sleep. Within 30 minutes of being downstairs he was on his back snoring his head off. Why this wasn’t possible to achieve upstairs I have no idea. Who knows what goes on in the canine mind other than how to get mummy wrapped around my paws.

We had obedience training this evening and he did really well. He did have a bit of a bark tonight ( all the dogs did at some point) but that was because we were right by the five bar gate at the entrance of the barn and he could see the farm cat wandering around the yard. It was winding him up no end mainly because he has never seen a cat before.

We made a bit of a boo boo before class and gave him his usual walk. He found a six month old puppy to play with so by the time we got to class he was hot and in play mode rather than work mode so we took the first 20 minutes just getting him to the right level of energy to work.

It was quite funny as the trainer kept going on about the sound of the fridge door, I think me telling him about this last week had tickled him. Dembe no matter where he is in the garden or house will come to you in the kitchen if you open the fridge door. We use it quite often if he is refusing to come indoors or if he is upstairs. It is funny that one of our recall commands is the sound of the fridge opening.

We found out this evening that we have been putting his lead on incorrectly some of the time. It is annoying because in the instructions it doesn’t state there is a wrong way and a right way. It just assumes that everyone will walk their dog on their left. Jay is right handed but dominant left hand – I know that is weird right, so he walks Dembe on the right. Which means the lead needs putting on slightly differently. The trainer has shown us how to do it so we both know now how it goes on. Hopefully it will be a lot more comfortable for Dembe now.

I can’t get over how big he looks in this photo.

Thursday 27th June

Yesterday we put the gazebo up and sorted out the garden ready for our BBQ on Saturday afternoon / evening. Dembe was a really good boy and stayed plonked on his chair whilst it was all done. He was a bit annoyed that his paddling pool was emptied but was thrilled as soon as it started to be filled up again.

It was crazy hot yesterday so we didn’t walk him a second time . We kept hosing him down and playing in the paddling pool, he was more than happy. Even I was struggling at times with the heat and came over faint a few times. Dembe has been using his cooling mat a lot at the moment.

Friday 28th June

Dembe is 33 weeks old today, it seems a lifetime ago that he was a little tiny bundle of energy.

I am dreading Jay going back to work next week as Dembe is crying constantly when Jay leaves the house to go shopping etc. He really loves the “pack” being all together. The crying constantly has only started this week and as you can imagine is highly irritating . He has only ever cried once when Jay has gone to work and that was when he was tiny and it lasted only 30 seconds. Now he will stand at the window for ages.

It is very warm again today but with some gusty wind it is making it more bearable for me and the mutt. Todays activity has mainly been standing on the sofa and barking out of the window.

We went over to my parents caravan this afternoon and Dembe had another play with Maggie. He was shattered after that and was flat out in the back of the car.

Just as well as we will be having an early night due to having friends over tomorrow for a BBQ.

Saturday 29th June

Dembe doesn’t know quite what to make of what is happening in the house as stuff is being moved and cleaned etc. He got very excited at one point and was running around like a loon. We had to stop him as he had been in his paddling pool and we were terrified he was going to slip over and hurt himself.

His new ID tag came in this morning’s post. I wasn’t expecting it until next week as I only ordered it yesterday. I love it. I have wanted a copper coloured ID tag for him for ages but just couldn’t find one I really liked.

It was really strange as the tag the design had on Etsy used the name Frankie. Which was the name of my beloved boy who passed away at the end of December 2018. Another weird coincidence there have been so many with Dembe.

Dembe was brillaintly behaved during the BBQ only once jumping up trying to get someones food. He was fascinated with beer though and we caught him a few times trying to drink out of any glasses that were on the floor. He kept us all amused with his crocodile throwing antics especially when he managed to throw him straight into his outdoor water bowl.

He was so tired by the time everyone left at 10.20pm that Jay had to carry him up to bed.

Sunday 30th June

Dembe was shattered and didn’t wake up for breakfast until Jay woke up at 6.30am in a panic thinking he hadn’t locked the front door last night ( he had drunk rather a lot). Dembe came straight up to bed afterwards and only got up at 9am because I got up. I had struggled to get to sleep last night and was still awake at 2am this morning,

Dembe really doesn’t want to move at all today and is just very cuddly. I am so proud of the way he behaved last night. He was so much calmer around my friends little boy Liam and when Liam fell asleep on the sofa Dembe stayed in the lounge with him guarding him. Dembe stayed on the sofa opposite so he could have a full view of the lounge and could keep an eye on Liam.

We had lots of lovely feedback from our guests at how well behaved Dembe was and that his training was paying off. It was lovely to have such a calm dog that didn’t bat an eyelid as people wandered into the house unannounced as I told all our guests just to come straight in. Not that he ever barks at the door anyway.

All of us have pretty much spent the day like this! Have a good week folks.