I'm a 40 something year old woman who has been sick since 2007. It took four years to be diagnosed. I have been diagnosed with postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and now severe autonomic dysfunction. I was diagnosed with a spontaneous CSF leak in 2016 which has self healed to an extent, however I still have problems most days by the evening. I have also been diagnosed with Menieres disease and have lost over 10% of my hearing in my right ear. Just to name a few issues.
Originally in 2007 I was diagnosed with having Myasthenia Gravis hence the name of my blog etc however that diagnosis was removed in 2009. There are still some doctors that I see that believe I have MG and some that don't. No one can explain the Ptosis I suffer from daily or my breathing issues.
I am married and have a yellow Labrador, who features in my blog! I also collect Emma Bridgewater Pottery.
You can find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/themyastheniakid and Dembe's blog at www.thedemebediaries.com
I have no idea what it is about my crochet but whenever I lay it on the floor to measure it or photograph it Dembe has to climb on it immediately!
We had a quiet day today, Dembe is really enjoying having his daddy home all the time but is getting worse with separation anxiety whenever Jay leaves the house without him, even though I am home.
The highlight of his day was getting a new toy from his friend Sam who he hasn’t been able to see due to the lock down. He now is the proud owner of a Toucan!
Tuesday 21st April
Today we decided to get Dembe’s paddling pool out as the weather has been really lovely over the last few days and very hot. As Jay cleaned it out Dembe cried at the back door with excitement. He went a little crazy when he was finally allowed outside.
He was so excited he flaked out after his walk in the afternoon. He adores his paddling pool and will play in it as often as he can. Unfortunately his solar fountain was broken so we had to get him a new one.
Wednesday 22nd April
Jay took Dembe to Woodbury Castle this morning for a walk for a change and they had a good explore of the woods. Dembe liked the change of location.
He is still waking up at 5am every morning since it started getting lighter. Thankfully Jay gets up with him then as if I do I am really out of it and at risk of a fall / faint.
He likes playing a game with his tennis balls, footballs etc where he throws them and then catches them.
Dembe has played outside a few times today with Ben and Freddie. He now thinks he is the king of the street.
Dembe was playing with Ben next door over the garden fence. Ben found Dembe a tennis ball and threw it into the paddling pool for him. Dembe was trying to jump up the fence to get a cuddle from him.
Thursday 23rd April
Dembe looked after me first thing this morning as I woke up at around 3am with a migraine well under way. I managed to sleep the worst of it off and woke up with Dembe curled up against me on the bed. He had gone out for a walk, had his breakfast and come back onto the bed all without waking me. He stuck to me like glue for the rest of the day.
Dembe enjoyed clapping for carers again, barking along with the pots being hit and fireworks going off. He was keen to get Ben next door out again so barked at his front door until he did. He had a play with Ben and the foot ball again.
He is so good with the fireworks going off, they were really loud and he didn’t bat an eyelid.
Friday 24th April
Well after all those warm sunny days there was a distinctive chill in the air. It didn’t bother Dembe though as he wanted out in the garden whenever he could. He is now branching out and using all the chairs in the back garden to sit and watch the world go by.
Dembe’s venison sausage treats came today. Oh my word they went down well. Just as well as I have ordered him a load more – to up the treat value and I also ordered him an Elk antler chew as his antlers that we bought him last year are now getting quite small.
Saturday 25th April
I am sure that Dembe is listening for the 5am news on The World Service as it seems within minutes of that coming on he starts crying to let me know he wants his dad to take him out. I managed to get back to sleep and didn’t come around until 7.30am.
Dembe has been full of beans all day demanding attention and rarely going to sleep. It has been a bit of a nightmare as Jay and I have both have had things to do.
Jay put a piece of the artificial grass down on the gravel and Dembe loves lying on it in the full sun. He can also see Ben when he is in the garden next door from here!
I managed to get Dembes new solar fountain going in his paddling pool. It then rapidly clouded over! He did manage to get soaked trying to dig it out of the pool.
The first time all day (17.15) that he has settled down for a snooze!
Sunday 26th April
Dembe decided to chance his luck by crying at 4.30am, he was most surprised when he got told off by me and sloped off to his dads room at 5am. He woke Jay up at 5.30am. Apparently he had three huge dumps on his walk, which would probably be the reason why he wanted out so early.
Last night was strange with Dembe at around 11pm he jumped up from the floor onto the bed and scrambled onto my lap. He never wants to sleep right on top of me as he prefers his own space. However last night he wanted held all night long.
Dembe’s walk this morning was at Woodbury Castle. He was going crazy running after his tyre. In the afternoon at a different location he met a cyclist with a dog. The cyclist said in a jokey way that his dog wouldn’t take any nonsense from a randy boy doggy. Dembe tried to play with his dog but his girl wasn’t having any of it. He came home and flopped onto the patio to cool down.
I’ve been telling Jay for months that Dembe runs to the front door when he wants a poo, now that he refuses to go in the back garden. He did this today and Jay couldn’t believe it. I said to him how do you think I know he wants out when you are working a late night??? It is nice that with Jay home he is getting more involved in Dembe’s care during the day.
Tuesday 14th April
He slept in my arms again last night. No idea what has triggered this enormous change in behaviour.
I woke up at 6am as Dembe was crying. I have taught Dembe to go into Jays room with the command ” go and see your daddy ” this means he wakes Jay up and leaves me alone! Jay got up and took Dembe straight out, they went to the model airfield. Jay said they had a massive game of chase and Dembe was loving it. It obviously didn’t wear him out though as he has been a nutcase this morning and all his toys are out of the box and strewn across the floor.
He did eventually settle down.
He was a bit crazy all day long. Really barky for ages today and no idea why he decided to start with the barking all the time again.
Jay gave him an hours walk this afternoon in the hope it would tire him out. He laid out on the patio again in the shade.
Wednesday 15th April
Dembe was back to normal last night and slept in his own bed.
He had a lovely walk with his daddy up at Woodbury Castle this morning. He bumped into a lady who was walking her two black Labradors . They stole Dembe’s ball and played chase which he adored. Dembe doesn’t understand why he see’s so few dogs these days on his walks. He really loves playing with and meeting other dogs. With the lock down not so many people are going up the common, plus the change in the law about essential journeys has been very confusing with many people thinking they weren’t allowed to drive to the common at the moment.
He has been having lots of play sessions with Jay, Dembe loves it when his daddy gets down on the floor with him and they have some rough and tumble.
Here he is with my sock that he had just taken off!
Thursday 16th April
Dembe decided this morning that he would have his first nap stretched out with his bum on my lap and his head on the foot stool . How on earth can that be comfortable? He stayed there for a good 30 minutes absolutely sound asleep.
Jay decided to give Dembe his leather football today. Which of course Dembe kept bringing inside, which is fine until he starts throwing it around …. So far no breakages but it really won’t be long.
Dembe joined us outside at 8pm for the Clap for Carers. It is the highlight of the week as he gets to bark as all the humans clap. He went and got Ben from next door and played out in the street for 20 minutes chasing the ball. He adores Ben and stood at their open front door barking trying to get him to come outside quicker!
Fireworks went off again and Dembe was absolutely fine which was good.
Dembe’s new treats arrived this morning, he now has chicken feet to have a munch on. He was going crazy for them. He also still loves his daily cows ear to chew on.
Friday 17th April
Dembe has been a really sleepy boy today and very cuddly.
Jay has been teaching Dembe how to play nudge with his football. Jay rolls the football to Dembe and gets him to nudge it back to him using his nose. I have been training Dembe to touch his nose to my palm on the command “touch”. He really loves playing the touch game but it is probably the bits of cocktail sausage that he is really enjoying! He likes to be kept occupied and barks more when he is bored. So by teaching them these games we distract him from barking.
Despite the wet weather Dembe still likes getting in his favourite chair in the garden.
Although Dembe has been back to sleeping on the floor every night at around 9 or 10pm he is coming up on the bed and climbing onto my legs / lap and having a cuddle.
Saturday 18th April
I have finally managed to get a photo of Dembe sleeping with his tongue out!
A brilliant week as Jay has managed to lose both of Dembe’s toys on the common this week!
Dembe refused to move as my bed was changed so it was made around him.
Sunday night we had some fun in the garden with his blue dinosaur. I managed to capture some lovely photos.
Dembe was ridiculously cuddly on Monday morning. He spent the first couple of hours that we were up snuggled up next to me.
He is slowly getting used to having his daddy home 24/7 and the clock change thank goodness. It was killing me him waking me up at 5am!
Dembe is loving the weather change and is spending lots of time outside in his chair.
Jay went out shopping today for the first time since lock down began Dembe got very upset crying and howling. Jay was gone for over two hours due to them limiting how many can go in and out of the store at any one time.
When Jay got back Dembe was beside himself with excitement and would leave him alone for the rest of the day.
Tuesday 7th April
Dembe had a nice afternoon walk with his dad and had the added bonus of being chased by a Westie which is his favourite thing ever…chase! It was the first dog he has met on his walk for quite some time due to the lock down.
Jay cooked Dembe some meals, he did a huge batch of Scoobies Stew which is one of Dembe’s favourites.
Crazy sleeping positions today
Wednesday 8th April
Dembe is moulting like crazy at the moment. Everything is covered in hair and the vacuum cleaner is full of it!
It is a 2 man job grooming him now as he rolls onto his back so you can’t brush him. Jay had to hold him whilst I gave him a quick brush. I got this glare for a few hours afterwards.
I made it up to him by playing a long game of find it bunny and putting it in harder and harder locations. I am also able to start directing the areas Dembe will search in by moving my hand and asking him to search. He really is very focused when he plays this game and it wears him out quite quickly. He doesn’t give up as easily now when he can’t locate the item.
Thursday 9th April
Jay and I have been upcycling furniture whilst he is off and Dembe has been such a good boy. He just goes onto his garden chair or onto the sofa and sleeps whilst we work.
On Thursday night at 8pm Dembe came outside with us when we clapped for the NHS. Someone let off fireworks . He was so good, it did make him jump but we made a real fuss of him and turned it into a bit of a game and he just lapped up all the attention. He played with Ben next door again – and he went into their house the nosey bugger. Ben was throwing Dembe a ball up the road when a miserable git of a neighbour came out and had a go at Ben telling him to watch his car. Ben wasn’t anywhere near the car but the neighbour is a bit mental these days and to keep the peace we took Dembe inside.
Dembe flaked out as soon as he came inside after his running around the street with Ben.
Friday 10th April
Today on Dembe’s walk he decided to pee on the molehills that he came across. Not on the side of them but right in the middle of the mole hills so the moles knew he had left his calling card! He has also started chasing birds now which is a fun game.
Today we cooked up Dembe’s other favourite his meat loaf recipe. We made loads and were able to top up his meals so that we won’t need to worry about them for a little while again now.
Jay and I did more painting outside so Dembe entertained himself.
After his walk in the afternoon due to the heat we gave him a hose down in the back garden which he liked. He was throwing his broccoli around in the garden.
Saturday 11th April
We painted the TV unit today so Dembe got lots of attention during the breaks. When we were painting he would sit on his garden chair and watch us. He has been so good at entertaining himself.
Sunday 12th April
We are all having a lazy day today as I managed to take my evening tablets first thing this morning. I have felt like I have had 8 pints of beer due to this. Not good. Jay went back to bed and whilst I watched a Tv show Dembe slept on Jays dressing gown with his blue dinosaur.
I am afraid with upheaval of my routine I have yet again failed to keep a proper diary this week. Plus die to the restrictions on our movements due to lock down here in the UK there is no dog training or taking Dembe to the shops etc. So I just have a collection of photos from the week.
He isn’t in my good book currently as he found one of my quilting gloves and attempted to chew one of the fingers off. They are still usable just now with add ventilation!
Dembe is loving having his dad home all day every day. I dread the day that Jay goes back as we will have a very sad little boy here.
Dembe’s eye has become irritated again this week so we have started giving him his eye drops again. Within a day the redness settles but it is still producing some gunk so we will keep going and we have some drops from Amazon coming to help as well. I am starting to wonder if it is a seasonal allergy as my nose has been running with the tree pollen currently.
I am very thankful that I filled the freezer up with Dembe’s meals 2 weeks before the lock down commenced. Jay and i have chatted and needs be if we run out of food for him we will buy raw food for him to tide us over. He is still eating very well. Much better than he has done in all the time we have had him. Also with him having much longer walks he is looking much sleeker.
Well this week has been a shit show to put it bluntly. I haven’t managed to keep Dembe’s diary up to date due to the Covid situation. Hubby is now home from work for 12 weeks due to the meds he takes meaning he is at high risk of serious complications / death should he contract Covid-19. So this week it will just be photos.
As of Monday night the UK was put on a lock down which meant the end of dog training and the end ( before it had even started) of Dembe using a dog walking service. It has been hard to get our heads around it. Dembe is loving his daddy being home but he is having to adjust to the change in our routines. He is still as wonderful and gorgeous as ever.
Monday 23rd March
Today Dembe was definitely picking up on my anxiety about Jay being at work. He played me up all day long barking and just being very needy. Eventually he wore himself out. Just before Jay got home he went to sleep of course!
Tuesday 24th March
Much calmer today with us both home.
Wednesday 25th March
We decided to upcycle some furniture. Dembe decided every time the sander was on he was going to bark at it and try to sniff it! Not at all dangerous.
He was shattered in the evening. As he is now having two long walks a day he is much more settled in the evening.
Thursday 26th March
Friday 27th March
He is loving the dry weather and being able to get out and sit in his favourite chair.
I have to be honest we have had a very lazy day today. Cuddles on the sofa and snoozing.
Dembe was determined when his dad came home for lunch that he was going to take his sprout toy into the back garden with him.
Tuesday 17th March
Day off with Jay today. It is hilarious when Jay is day off mummy gets completely ignored. He has draped himself all over Jay today.
No visitors today as we are limiting our exposure to the outside world as both me and Jay are more at risk of a severe outcome if we come into contact with Covid-19. We are just attending dog training this evening and only that because it is in a huge barn and we can employ social distancing. We will be having a break after this term ends purely as we will be limiting social exposure.
Tonight at training we learned about canine enrichment and games to play with Dembe if we end up in a lock down situation. It was really good fun and Dembe really enjoyed himself. At one point Dembe managed to slip his lead and he did a a run around the whole of the barn, he looked like a streaker the way he kept looking over his shoulder. He went straight over to his mate Rufus who he adores and all he wants to do is have a play with him! Rufus’ owner was laughing her head off at Dembes antics. He gets so excited when he gets to play games at the training centre.
Dembe was so exhuasted after training he just went to sleep as soon as we got home.
Wednesday 18th March 2020
Well I was expecting Dembe to be like this all morning after last nights escapades
But his actual dosing lasted a very short time indeed. I ended up playing Find it with him for close to 40 minutes . After which I don’t know who was most knackered him or me!
Today was quite a huge day really as I finally bit the bullet and decided to enquire with our dog trainer about dog walking. This is for when Jay is working on a late night as Dembe simply refuses to use the backgarden to go to the toilet. Even having a wee now seems to be out of the question. Jay has started to take him out twice on a day when he is working late before he goes to work. But even then I am left weith Dembe crying on and off from around 5pm until Jay gets in at 9 / 10 pm. It simply isn’t fair on Dembe and it isn’t fair on me as it means my evenings are spent continually getting Dembe out in the back garden to go for a pee which he now flatly refuses to do.
I am also going to get Jay to speak to his friend at work whose wife runs a dog walking service and ask if she can pick up Saturday afternoon walks with Dembe as she could do with an extra client. She has had so many cancellations with people either being made unemployed or now working from home her business is being impacted badly. It will only be about once a month that Jay gets a late night Saturday but it will help Dembe and me and in turn our friend.
In the evening the dog walker come over and met Dembe . Dembe went absolutely crazy! Initially he was barking loads and then he went to his toy box and brought Phil his sprout. Just as Phil was leaving Dembe decided without warning to puke all over the lounge rug so that wasn’t at all mortifying.
He is absolutely fine in himself however I am concerned about his left eye. He seems to be blinking it more and it looks red. There has also been a bit of gunk coming from it. So a trip to the vets tomorrow for him.
Thursday 19th March
Poor Dembe has a corneal abrasion. Initially I had though he may have conjuctivitis but Jay took him to the vets at 10.15am and they could see a scratch on his eye. He has had an injection and eye drops put in.
He really isn’t happy about the eyedrops. I put the first lot in at 12.30pm and he ran up the stairs straight after and stayed on the stairs glaring at me through the banisters for 15 minutes.
He then came down the stairs and went onto the small sofa, huffing and puffing the whole time whilst flatly refusing to look at me.
I have booked Dembe in for some dog walks next week and one the week after. This is a huge step for Jay and I, turning Dembe over to someone else for at least an hour. But it will do Dembe good.
Friday 20th March
Dembe’s eye is still a little swollen and red but it is looking a whole lot better than it did. He was bouncing off the walls today . I have never known him so full of energy. Obviously the pain relief he was given at the vets yesterday knocked him bandy.
I did manage to get a little sewing done today at least whilst he had a nap upstairs.
He was walked early and again before Jay went to work, as he is late night today. But he is still bouncing off the walls. I thank my lucky stars this is the last late night I will have to endure with a whinning dog that keeps running to teh front door despite having a garden he can use to relieve himself.
Saturday 21st March
Dembe’s eye is now back to normal, no swelling and all the redness has gone.
Again he was absolutely mental this morning for about an hour after his long walk with Jay before he finally conked out.
He has been incredibly vocal today, barking and howling at everyone who dares walk past our house. It is a bit of a nightmare when all he wants to do is talk!
As soon as the clock strikes one Dembe assumes his position at the window waiting for his dad to come home for his lunch. As soon as his dad arrives Dembe then goes to his toy box and presents it to his dad. It is very sweet and you never know from one day to the next what toy Jay will be given.
Sunday 22nd March
Jay left the house before 8.30am this morning so that he could go and get shopping for both sets of parents. Both are self isolating due to this fucking virus and need bits and pieces from the supermarket to get them through. As Jay wasn’t in his work uniform Dembe kicked off from the moment he left. Howling and barking at the front door and lounge window. Hoping that his dad could hear him and that he would hurry home. I hate it when Dembe is like this as there is nothing you can do to console him apart from just getting him chewy treats as he can’t chew and make noise at the same time.
He did settle eventually and I managed to get a small amount of sewing done before Jay got home.
As soon as Jay sat down Dembe draped himself all over Jay to make up for lost time. He loves his dad.
Jay was on his usual shift, as it was pissing down with rain – his words not mine he decided to give Dembe a walk around the block. He was out for 30 minutes trying to get the little bugger to have a poo. He flat out refused so they both came back to the house soaked through.
I was a bit concerned that Dembe would be a pain in the bum having not been properly as today was the third meeting of my craft group. However he was really well behaved. We meet up fortnightly at our house the group can be just 4 or up to 7 of us. Dembe initially was getting very over excited as we simply don’t have that many people coming to the house. However with these regular meet ups it has really calmed him down. He spent most of the meeting ( 2.5 hours) lying at my feet asleep. I did try sitting on the pouffe but he jumped up and knocked me flying so I swapped it out for a kitchen chair. It was hilarious. Thank goodness I wasn’t wearing a skirt as my legs were up in the air and I was flat on my back having my face licked. Much to the amusement of my friends.
Tuesday 10th March
We have a busy day today with Jay day off. We have several friends coming over. As one of them is bring her two week old baby Jay is popping into pets at home to get some bulls tails for Dembe. He loves chewing on them more than being fussed by visitors.
As is usual when daddy goes to pets at home he buys Dembe a toy……like he hasn’t got any! So today Daddy bought Dembe a baby T rex. I sometimes wonder if Jay if fulfilling his childhood dream of having lots of dinosaur toys!
I did emergency surgery on a few toys – two crocodiles and a carrot. All damaged in the line of duty whilst playing tug. Thankfully he doesn’t sit and destroy toys.
Sandra popped over for a coffee late in the morning and Dembe was only too happy to have some cuddles with her. He was very calm as he had seen her the day before. It is really going well having lots of people visiting which is why it is so sad that with this Covid business we may not have many visitors for a few months.
As Kat was coming with her baby we decided we would take Dembe out and give him a nice long walk before she arrived so that he would be less energetic. He has met babies before but it was quite a while ago. He seems to be very tuned into people, like with Sam and when Sandra broke her ankle when he was a tiny pup, so is always very gentle. I am more worried about him accidentally hurting the baby. I am sure he will be fine but initially we will keep him in the kitchen to ensure he has calmed down before letting him in.
He had a lovely walk although was a bit muddy when he got back. He gets hosed off in the garden with no issues at all. Normally the Weimaraners would run a mile at the hose going on. Where as Dembe runs towards it, he still wanders into the shower cubicle most mornings whilst I am having a shower.
Kat arrived with baby Logan. It went perfectly. Dembe was curious and gave Logan lots of sniffs . He was very sweet, when I was holding Logan he jumped onto the sofa kissed me and then gave Logan the tiniest of licks. Logan was fine, I would have been mortified if he then screamed the place down but as Kat has dogs herself he was very good. Dembe was very interested in the car seat which is what happened when he was a puppy and we met baby Orla.
He was pretty shattered after his busy day and was having very long naps on the sofa only to discover that it was also dog training. Training this evening went brilliantly, he was easily the top of the class tonight. Very little barking, unlike the week before where he decided he would be a gob shite. He was the only dog when they were doing a sit stay exercise and then putting their toy down in front of them that didn’t break his stay. Also Martin the trainer came up and told Jay out of all the dogs, Dembe was the only one who wouldn’t be distracted when they were having a play session. Our training sessions are broken up with regular plays sessions for a few minutes so that the dogs associate the learning with lots of fun. Dembe and Jay have a whale of a time when they start playing and all he wants is Jay. The other dogs all get easily distracted even when playing with their owners. Jay and I pride ourselves that no matter how tired we are or how shitty we are feeling Dembe has at least one play session a day with us. It could be we find it – which is really a training session dressed up as playtime, it could be chase, cuddles and tug of war. Anything at all that strengthens the bond between us.
I have also over the months slowly disengaged from Dembe when he is in training so that when Jay does any exercise when he is off the lead he doesn’t bolt back to me. I am no longer the distraction I was to him. It is hard especially when he has done really well during an exercise as all I want to do is cuddle him and tell him what a star he has been.
Wednesday 11th March
Jay is late night tonight, so Dembe has had an early walk. He will get another walk at around 11am to ensure he has done as much of his business as possible before Jay goes to work. We have had a lazy morning and Dembe is absolutely shattered after yesterday!
I have managed to crack on with some sewing this afternoon and made Dembe some new treat bags for dog training class.
I made the prototypes of these last summer and the last one finally broke last night. I am amazed it has lasted as long as it did. I have made a few of these recently as presents and it was only after the one broke last night that I realised that Dembe only had the generic Good Boy one I made and had never had one that was personalised for him. I put #Team Dembe due to that’s what we are called at dog training.
As Jay is late night I ended up playing find it bunny with Dembe for ages. He just keeps going and going. I was having to stay up waiting for a delivery ( which never arrived) so Dembe was convinced his dad would be home soon and kept going to the door.
This is when I start to feel useless as I can’t walk him and although he has access to the garden he is refusing more and more to use it eve for going for a wee. Eventually I did get him to go. But he went for loads of wee’s when Jay took him out when he got home.
Thursday 12th March
As Jay was on a 9-6 today Dembe got a nice long walk on the common before he went to work. It has been dry for a few days so for a change he didn’t need washed off. When he got back I gave him his breakfast. Jay couldn’t believe how quickly he ate it and then licked the bowl clean. It is safe to say he is enjoying this new batch of food. Back in January when I started cooking for him I never imagined that he would enjoy it this much. I was worried I would be left with a freezer full of dog food that after 4 weeks he went off. Thankfully that hasn’t been the case.
I did some more sewing today but had regular breaks so I could have Dembe cuddles. He hates it when Jay is on a 9-6 shift, so from 5pm was quite hard work.
As soon as he saw me get the coats out he knew his dad was coming home. So he spent the next 5 minutes at the window waiting for his dad.
It was really light this evening so it was quite busy at the airfield. Today he had a lovely walk with a black Labrador the same age as him called Luna. They were running around like crazy, although he refused to follow Luna into the gorse bushes, he has never been a fan of going off the path. By the time he and Jay got back to the car he was utterly exhausted. I do love it when he has had a chance to have some fun with another dog as he loves to play.
Friday 13th March
Dembe had one of his days where he slept the majority of the day, so I cracked on with some sewing that I wanted to do.
As Jay was on another 9-6 shift he took Dembe out before he went to work up to Woodbury Castle. He said it was deserted and they had a nice long walk. By the time Jay got back is was torrential rain. Dembe was a bit better today waiting for Jay to get home, although he was keen to get out even with the rain. I got his coat on ready for when Jay got in so he could go straight out.
Saturday 14th March
Jay is on an early shift today, as it was dry he took Dembe up the common and gave him a proper run about before heading into work. However when I finally got up at around 7am you would have thought Dembe had never been out as he was like a coiled spring. Bringing me toy after toy attempting to get me to play with hims whilst I was struggling to wake up.
No sewing this morning I need a rest from it. So I have spent the morning updating Dembe’s blog from the hard copy I keep onto his blog ready for Monday when it will be published. My little puddin’ has slept beside me on the sofa for most of the morning.
Dembe has slept most of the day although he went absolutely mental when his dad came home. He had another lovely walk playing with another doggy friend.
Sunday 15th March
We are all having a quiet day. Due to the current Covid-19 issue we are limiting our contact with the outside world as much as possible.
Dembe and I had a very quiet day today as we were both shattered after helping dad with the decorating last week. I am sure Jay went back to work for a rest. I was so knackered I went up to bed for a nap at 2pm and slept until 4.30pm.
Dembe was so good and got straight back into the routine of Jay being in work. He is quite like Mollie in that he knows the difference between his dad in his work uniform and dad in his civvies and what it means.
I took a couple of good photos on Sunday.
Tuesday 3rd March
Dembe was taken up the common by Jay nice and early. They went to the model airfield where they met an elderly chocolate Labrador. The old boy was more than happy to play with Dembe although he did struggle to keep up with him.
I had the doctors at 10.10am so Jay and Dembe dropped me off and had a wander around town. He went around the market where the pet shop stall were feeding hims sausage! He also went into a friends shop, which is also great experience for him. It was very busy down the town and lots of noisy traffic. It didn’t phase him which was great as it means our early environment training has paid off.
We had dog training this evening, after a week of reduced barking Dembe decided to be a gobshite. In the end Martin came over and got him to be quiet. It is for attention and when he gets bored, wants you to play etc. So at dog training he hates standing around doing nothing. SO I have asked Jay in future when Martin is talking to do sit and stay exercises with Dembe. That way he thinks he is still working and he should be quiet. He never barks on a walk or when moving at dog training. It purely is a boredom thing. At home he liked to bark if he felt Jay and I were ignoring him but he has stopped doing that now.
About 20 minutes into the session the barking was under control. Dembe seems to need a 30 minute warm up before he is in the right place to learn. Which is strange as he gets a walk before he goes, I think however as he sees his mates before class maybe he gets too excited and it takes time for him to get back into the learning zone. By the end of the lesson Dembe and Jay were working beautifully together. It was so choreographed they looked like they were dancing or working to music.
I do worry that we expect an awful lot from him when he still is only a babe in arms at 15 months. Mind you however old he is he will always be our puppy.
Wednesday 4th March
Dembe decided this morning that we all needed to be out of bed at 5.45am which made him supremely popular! By 7.15am I was hanging out of my arse! He however was beside me on the sofa snoring his head off the little bugger.
I am so pleased with how he is getting on with his home cooked meals. What a joy it is now to feed him, I no longer get so stressed out and upset that he isn’t eating properly. He is looking fab and he is definitely moulting less since changing him over to the majority of his meals being fresh food.
Today Uncle Paul came over. Dembe always gets over excited when Paul comes to visit so I put him in the kitchen and shut the baby gate before letting Paul in. I kept him behind the gate until I knew he was calm. He let me down on the barking front but that was because he had slept all bloody morning and was now wide awake and raring to go.
I got a great photo of Dembe sleeping in the afternoon
As I crept up on him I started to take photos. This next photo as he wakes up and sees me is hilarious
Every time I look at the photo I can’t stop laughing. His face is so funny!
Thursday 5th March
Jay was on an early today so he took him on a walk around the streets, Dembe refused to go for a poo, which was a bit silly as he won’t be going out again until Jay gets home tonight. Although he does have access to the garden.
I got some sewing done in the morning but I managed to mess up my neck, so by 2pm I have a crippling headache. I can barely string a sentence together so Dembe and I went up to bed. Dembe was a super star, he was a bit perturbed by my oxygen being on for so long and came and gave my nasal cannula a good sniff. He then settled down and went to sleep on my bed.
I got up at 4.30pm as I knew Jay was coming home at 5pm. Dembe and I sat by the window.
Friday 6th March
Jay is on a late today so he took Dembe out for a nice long walk to ensure he would be ok for the rest of the day. Jay will be taking him out again when he gets home at around 10pm and Dembe has access to the garden all day.
Unfortunately at around 4.30pm Dembe starting crying and going to the front door. It was clear that he needed a poo. I am unable to walk him, I just can’t walk very far at all. My mobility scooter was in the back of my husbands car and Dembe still isn’t trained to walk alongside me, with me holding the lead. So I had no way of getting him out for a walk. I kept letting him out in the garden but it became very clear I would have to get Jay to pop home on his lunch break and take him around the block.
Jay got home and took him out for 15 minutes. Dembe had two huge dumps almost immediately, so I was right he had been complaining that he couldn’t go for a walk. When he got back from the walk I was expecting him to settle but he didn’t we ended up playing find it bunny for an hour. By the end I had him finding bunny in the washing machine drum and from the tumble dryer!
Eventually he did settle at around 19.30pm. When Jay got in he took Dembe out around the block again to ensure he wouldn’t want to get up too early.
Saturday 7th March
Jay is on another bloody late. It is quite rare that Jay works two on the bounce , I just hope Dembe doesn’t kick off tonight like he did last night.
As he was working until late Jay took Dembe out first thing and then again at 11am to ensure he had got everything out that he could. On Dembes walk he was playing with a female black Labrador that was much bigger than him and had a whale of a time.
Dembe has been very vocal today
He has always been a very vocal dog, from about 9 weeks old he was expressing himself.
We are having to stay up later than usual as I am waiting for a delivery from Hermes ( so surprised it never ever turned up). So I switched on Crufts to see what Dembe would do, as you can see it didn’t stay on for long as he insisted on attempting to talk to the dogs on the tv.
Sunday 8th March
Dembe decided we all needed to get up at 6.30am. I managed to keep him occupied for 15 minutes whilst I came to and got some fluids and meds into my system. I decided to get up and crack on with Dembe’s food preparation for the month. I may have gone slightly overboard but I want to ensure that if the Corona virus comes to this house at least Dembe has food. All it will take is food to be got out of the freezer and defrosted and he is ready to go.
Jay got Dembe out and took him up to Woodbury Castle for a nice long walk to burn off some energy. It appears to be working as he is snoring his head off beside me.
Its been crazy here only just managed to squeeze all Dembe’s meals into the freezers. At least I wont have to cook for him for quite a while !
Today marks the first day of Jay’s holiday from work, he has the next 7 days off. For his first day off however he had to make himself scarce as I was holding my second meeting of The Stitchin’ Bitches, the craft group I founded. Dembe was beside himself, he simply adores all the attention he was getting from all the ladies.
One of my friends had made scones and brought clotted cream and jam. Dembe was being given bits of everyone’s scones on the sly. It is a wonder he could move after.
It was really sweet how he focused his attention onto Imogen, who had lost her own dog Bors, just a month earlier. I remember how Bors had comforted Jay and I after losing our dogs last year. It was beautiful to see Dembe giving all that love to Imogen.
For some reason when it is just Jay and I in the house Dembe has decided to be very naughty and just bark all the bloody time. It is driving us crazy.
Tuesday 25th February
Dembe was knackered after yesterday and was quite happy to snooze all day long. Jay and I needed to make a start on decorating his bedroom after planning that this would be our job during his holiday. Dembe however was not impressed that he wasn’t allowed to be in the same room as us 100% of the time whilst furniture etc was moved.
He is really barky again today and has now started howling when Jay leaves the house . He gets very upset when Jay ( not in uniform leaves him at home). When Jay is in and out of the house wearing his work uniform he is fine but oh my days it is the end of the world when his dad goes out to the shops and we are left. He really does love his whole pack being together silly monkey.
Today I cooked Dembe Mackerel and potato bake from the Lilys Kitchen cookbook. It was supposed to be sardines but I didnt have any tins of those. Bloody hell it stank the house out but he seemed to enjoy it!
Tonight we had dog training, on the whole it was a very good session but Dembe is still being a bugger with his barking. Martin gave us another technique to try with him when he starts barking. We are to ignore him and start talking to each other. If he continues to bark we are to leave the room. It worked at training with just the talking. The minute he realised we weren’t taking any notice he gave up – after about three barks. I will be very interested to see if this will work at home as the barking is becoming a real problem as it is all the time.
There were a few people absent from the training session this week so there were only 3 dogs which was nice as it meant each person had a larger area to work in. Tonight we were working on recall past temptations. Both boy dogs ( Dems included) were heavily distracted by a scent on the floor of the barn tonight. I have a sneaky suspicion that a female dog in another class maybe coming into season – could be a few weeks off yet but Frankie could always pick up on Willows seasons at least 5 weeks before they started. As a result Dembe disgraced himself by having a wee on the floor, it was a scent rather than a full bladder empty thank goodness but still embarrassing.
Dembe did really well on the recall past distractions and Martin pulled Jay aside during the session to tell him what an excellent trainer he was becoming and that it has been a joy watching not only the bond between him and Dembe grow but also Jays confidence as a trainer. Jay of course will never believe that for a second. But it is nice to have it confirmed by Martin.
Wednesday 26th February
Dembe was knackered after yesterdays training session. This week so far Dembe has been really good at not getting us up at the crack of dawn and waiting until 6.40am – which is a lie on these days!
He has been much better behaved today whilst we are continuing sorting out his daddys bedroom. Much less barking and he took himself off to my room and went to sleep.
For the first time in around 17 years we have managed to paint and not get anything on a dog! We are all knackered.
Dembe is really enjoying his home cooked meals again now we have added in another 3 dishes to his menu. He was getting fed up when we were down to just two different flavours.
Thursday 27th February
Dembe really hasn’t been happy about his dad going out and leaving both me and him at home. Weirdly when Jay is in his work uniform Dembe doesn’t react but in his civvies it is the end of the world for Dembe.
Another day of decorating, Dembe has been very good and has been obeying the leave and stay commands. Today whilst we were working he could lie on Jays bed and watch us. We removed the carpet, vinly and underlay from Jays room today. Dembe found that very strange indeed and had to sniff every inch of the exposed floorboards.
It has been quite sad for us in some ways decorating the bedroom. This was the room where Frankie and Willow were born, along with the rest of the first litter and the second litter. The Vinyl was laid for the puppies and the whelping box to make it easier for us to clean up after them. Jay gets very attached to these things and it has hurt his heart this week and made him very quiet. On a number of occasions I have had to explain to him that memories are held in our hearts and minds not objects. The house can’t be a shrine forever and it is time no matter how hard to move on now that we have had Dembe for over a year. It isn’t fair on him to live in the other dogs shadows.
Friday 28th February
Dembe spent the time laying in the hallway with his toes just inside the bedroom – the room he wasn’t allowed to come into! If he wasn’t there he was on my bed sleeping. He reminds me so much of our first dog Travis who was so good with things like that and was more than happy to spend the time sleeping on our bed.
He has been beautifully behaved for such a young pup ( he is 15 months) . He can be trusted not to be getting himself into trouble, even when it goes silent. The only other dog that we could trust like that was Travis. Mollie, Frankie and Willow were all destroyers. Silence meant sofas, kitchen units or Xbox ones were being destroyed.
I think all this rain is getting to Dembe now, after every walk he needs to be hosed off. He is now running onto the gravel and has to be coaxed back so he can be washed off. Yet if it was a muddy pool on the common he would be straight in there.
Saturday 29th February
Its a leap year and to celebrate Dembe woke us up by vomiting bile all over the hall carpet, my carpet and the stair carpet at 4.30am! Deep bloody joy! No idea what the issue is but he was given a zantac and that sorted out his tummy and he has kept everything down ever since. Although he was very suspicious of the cheese triangle that the zantac was hidden in so I fed it to him in small pieces.
At around 10am I noticed that Dembe had the tiniest little fleck of paint on his tail. So we haven’t got away with no paint on him but it is the smallest amount ever!
At around 10.30am the people arrived to collect Jays treadmill that we had sold to them. Another memory leaving the house this week. When Frankie was a pup I had him trained to use the treadmill on the command of jog jog. Again this has hit Jay hard and made him very sad. To be honest I will be the same when my room is done. There is a huge patch of stained carpet at the end of my bed. This was where Travis our first dog was really poorly when he was dying. I have never been able to replace the carpet despite the massive stain on it. Silly what things we hang onto and the importance they can hold.
We are having a day off from the decorating today. Dembe is making the most of it by snuggling up to each of us in turn. He was a right flirt when the young lads were here to collect the treadmill. One of the youngsters was very enamoured with him. Dembe was going a bit crazy jumping between the sofas and having a cuddle. At least now there will be load of room on Jays floor for Dembe’s wicker basket.
We are all feeling a little knackered from our 4.30am puking dog alarm call this morning.
As Jay was on an early today Dembe had a lead walk around the housing estate before his daddy went into work. Dembe then came back up and went back to sleep with me when Jay went off to work.
As usual Dembe knew his daddy was on his way home for lunch before I said anything. I walked into the lounge and found him on daddy watch again!
He did the same again in the evening as it is still light now when Jay finishes on an early shift, which feels like the first time in forever.
We had quite a lazy day today just pottering about and having lots of cuddles.
Tuesday 18th February
Really crazy busy day today by my standards, quite a normal day for anyone who doesn’t suffer with a chronic illness. Jay was day off and we had a long list of jobs to get through.
At 10am Dembe had his year health check and his vaccinations. The last time he had his vaccinations he was put up on the table, this time the lump was on the floor. Before he had his jabs the vet weighed him, he came in at 33.3kg which was a bit of a surprise as he certainly isn’t looking pudgy at the moment. The vet was really pleased with him, said she goes much more by body condition, Dembe has a clearly defined waist, you can feel his spine when you run your hand along his back and you can feel his ribs without seeing them. She said he may get heavier again but as long as that is muscle mass and not fat it is ok. We were chuffed to bits as basically we have been avoiding the vets for such a long time due to being made to feel like we had a horrendously obese dog. The vet asked me what I was feeding him as he was in such good condition.
Dembe managed to show us up in the vets by cocking his leg and scenting. I am guessing he wanted to show off that he is a big boy now and can do big boy wee’s!
With Dembe in the car we then headed into Exeter to the sewing machine shop as my machine was ready to be picked up after its service. As both Dembe and I were knackered we stayed in the car whilst Jay went and collected it. Dembe is definitely getting much better at being in the car and no longer makes such a fuss. We have worked out that many times the fuss was simply he needed to go to the toilet. So now any car journey longer than just going up to the common he has a quick walk around the block so that he is comfortable.
We were then home for a few hours before I had to head off to my Physiotherapy session. Whilst I was at that Jay took Dembe out for a nice walk on the common. He had a swim whilst he was there and played with a black Labrador called Reggie.
In the evening we had obedience training, Dembe had a really good session . One of the other owners came up to Jay before the session and asked him how much training time he was putting in with Dembe between lessons as he couldn’t get over how well Dembe was doing. That made us super proud parents!
Wednesday 19th February
As Jay is late night Dembe has had a really long walk on the common this morning. With all of us home he was really quite active this morning , bringing us toys and chucking crocodile around.
He also tried to get involved in my blog post for the other site I run The Myasthenia Kid. He is just letting me know he thinks cuddles are more important than that silly nonsense.
In the afternoon he took himself up to bed whilst I did some sewing. I needed to check that my machine was now running smoothly again after developing a fault. So far so good.
We were both shattered so were in bed and settled down for the evening by 18.30 which is unusual for the both of us. When Jay got in just after 10pm he took Dembe around the block for a walk to ensure he had been able to go to the toilet.
Thursday 20th February
I don’t remember much of today. I was terribly ill with a hemiplegic migraine the likes of which I have never suffered so severely from before. It is now Sunday and I am still struggling with the associated amnesia from the day before and the day after. I am going to see the doctor in a weeks time to get checked out as I was so very ill and to be honest the level of memory loss has frightened me. Jay had to take the day off work as I wasn’t safe to be at home alone or look after Dembe. I have vague memories of Dembe asleep on my feet at points during the day whilst I went between hurling my guts up and being semi conscious.
Jay however did manage to take this video of Dembe having a word with the recycling men
Friday 21st February
I am still struggling with amnesia after my migraine. Jay has left notes all over the place for me so I remember to do stuff. One of which being to feed Dembe. Dembe is sticking close by me and barking a lot at any noise he hears outside bless him.
Saturday 22nd February
Much the same as yesterday I am afraid. Dembe and I having a lot of cuddles. I did manage to get some sewing done. But that is pretty automatic for me. Other than that I do remember we played find it bunny for a bit. I confused Dembe as for the first time I hid bunny upstairs in Jays room. It took him an age to find bunny!
Sunday 23rd February
We have knocked Agility training on the head for the time being, so we have done a few bits of housework and played with Dembe. He loves having the whole pack together. Earlier when Jay nipped to the shop he started howling as Jay had left us. If Jay leaves us when he is wearing his uniform for work it is ok but he isn’t allowed to leave in his everyday clothes! Dembe was not happy!
He had a lovely long walk in the afternoon
I love the way he is trying to sleep with one eye open so he can continue to keep an eye on me!